My Biggest Life Decision (And Yours, Too.)
Part of the memory seems out of body.
I come in through the side bathroom door (in that apartment, the bathroom had two doors), and I can see myself standing in front of the mirror. Next I’m in my body, I’m about 14 years old and I can see my reflection staring back at me. I can see the color of my eyes, and for some reason my pupils are a focused feature. Another flash, and I’m out of my body again. I’m in the hallway that runs along the inside of our apartment, and I can look at both my brother in the living room and back at me in front of the mirror.
Back in my body, I don’t remember if it was the show he was watching or a noise he made, but something brought my attention from my face in the mirror over to him, and that snapped me out of it. He was already missing a significant male figure in his life, I wouldn’t make it two. I decided to change course. And then…
Then I made a choice that would change my life forever.
Recently, I was interviewed on the Undue Anxiety Podcast with best-selling author, parenting & relationship expert, and highly sought-after clinical psychologist Dr. John Duffy. During this interview, I share the rest of the story, how I got to the mirror, the choice I made after being there, and how it impacted the life I live today both personally and professionally. It’s a story I’ve never shared publicly, and it’s message reveals the stepping stone to any happy life, a choice we all make.
Other highlights from the episode include:
-How allowing yourself to feel your feelings versus taking medication can help resolve depression
-How happiness and joy can be a state that you live in consistently
-The changing nature of masculinity in our society
A hint about the choice I made and why it matters:
Think back on the turning-point decisions you’ve made in your life. Decisions like quitting a job, leaving a partner, the decision of “I’m going for my dreams, no matter what.” (I can hear someone shout jokingly from the back of the imaginary classroom, “Getting out of bed!”) What was the choice you were really making in those situations?
Stumped? Make one of your easier life decisions to find out:
After you’ve listened, I want to know: What’s the most exciting life decision you’ve ever made? Tell me in the comments below.